Saying Thank You to My 22-year-old Self
I have come to use the metric of smart-funny-kind to identify the people to whom I'm most likely to feel close, most likely to let in at all. This is completely subjective, obviously; another person's idea of humor might not match mine. Smart, funny, and unkind: no thank-you. The other permutations represent people who are perfectly wonderful to be around, but the trifecta means we'll probably be good friends.
Somehow, back when I wasn't always making good choices, I managed to attract a man who is brilliant, gut-bustingly funny, and relentlessly kind. And I've been with him ever since.